The Problem with Same-Sex “Marriage” | Victor Tey

1 Peter 3:15 But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: and be ready always to give an answer to every man that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you with meekness and fear:

NO Good Reason (To Redefine Marriage)

What are the common reasons used to argue for the legal redefinition of marriage in Australia.

  • “Marriage Equality”
    • This slogan is a misnomer. We already have marriage equality
    • Everyone can marry someone of the opposite gender and likewise is prohibited from marrying someone of the same gender.
    • What they are seeking is to redefine marriage.
    • Issues with taxation and property laws should not be resolved by redefining marriage but by addressing the taxation and property laws themselves.
    • Social recognition – the law doesn’t exist to validate your relationship choices.
  • “Love is Love”
    • Not all love is the same and should be used as the reason for a marriage (mother, sister, daughter)
  • “It won’t affect your marriage”
    • Laws are for the good of society by prohibiting detrimental behaviour – even though it may never affect your own life
  • “You’re denying people of their fundamental human rights”
    • Is homosexuality included in the fundamental human right to marry?

Universal Declaration of Human Rights (1948)

Article 16.
(1) Men and women of full age, without any limitation due to race, nationality or religion, have the right to marry and to found a family. They are entitled to equal rights as to marriage, during marriage and at its dissolution.
(2) Marriage shall be entered into only with the free and full consent of the intending spouses.
(3) The family is the natural and fundamental group unit of society and is entitled to protection by society and the State.

  • How is race is being equated to sexual orientation? – homosexuals are not born that way.
  • Sexual orientation is not mentioned in the UDHR as a prohibited limitation – why?
  • The right includes founding a family, i.e. raising children.
  • Homosexuals naturally and fundamentally can never produce children without a third party sperm donor or surrogate.
    • Objection: “Same-sex couples already have children”
    • In order to do this, they have forced a child into a step-parent situation, or into foster care.
    • It’s true, that foster parents can potentially do just as good a job, if not better, than biological parents in some instances. But this is not the ideal.
    • So it is not a scenario that should be promoted and created intentionally. It is something that is catered for as an exception to the ideal and any solutions given to a child should emulate biological parents – father AND mother.
  • One main reason the natural and fundamental group unit of society is entitled to protection by society and the State is children.
  • So if you are making the “Yes” argument based on this human right – you must accept that there will be consequences for children being denied of their biological parents. Because that will be the only way to fulfil a homosexual’s right to found a family.
  • Or, you need to accept that homosexual unions are not a human right because they are naturally and fundamentally unable to found a family and therefore not entitled to protection by society and the State.

These slogans are catchy and good marketing – but they are not good reasons to redefine marriage.

  • In fact, they are dangerous because the same reasoning can be used to justify other sexual relationships, such as polygamy and to a worser extent, incest and beastiality.
  • Why isn’t there “marriage equality” for polygamists? Are we polyphobic? Why are muslim communities and leaders so silent in the marriage debate?
  • If “love is love”, what about the love between multiple people?
  • How does a polygamous marriage affect your marriage? If you don’t like polygamous marriages, don’t get one!
  • If the human right to marry is based on these reasons – then who’s to say those that practice polygamy should be excluded – at least these relationships are capable of producing children – are you denying them of their basic human rights?
  • I’m not equating homosexuality with polygamy, neither am I saying one causes the other. What I am saying is that the arguments used to support one, can also be used to support the other. Which is why these are not the arguments used to support true marriage.

What’s wrong with same-sex “marriage”?

  • Homosexuality is a sin
    • Lev 20:13
    • Rom 1:26-28
    • Eph 5:3-7
    • Christians who support same-sex marriage are either deceived, ignorant, or deceptive.
    • Lyle Shelton from ACL in an interview said “I have nothing against homosexuals”
    • Mat 19:4-6 – Jesus on marriage
    • Were Adam and Eve married? – Gen 2:21-25
  • The purpose of marriage
    • Binds a couple into an exclusive relationship where sexual activity is permitted
      • prevention of sexually transmitted disease
        • 1 Cor 6:15-20
      • emotional wellbeing – a sexual relationship creates a very intimate and strong emotional bond, hence the marriage vows to have/hold
        • 1 Cor 7:1-5
        • Eph 5:22-25
        • If intimate relationships are not respected and taken care of then people can become extremely bitter
        • “A heart breaks as much as it loves”
        • This is why people who were once loving toward one another end up hating each other’s guts.
      • If sex is not limited within the bounds of marriage – fornication is inevitable because the sexual desire is very strong and couples who are not committed to one another will ultimately seek sexual gratification with another
        • If a man and woman fornicate free of committment – this spreads disease and risks children being created without stability.
        • If a man and woman fornicate over an extended period – eventually one will form an emotional attachment. Sex with one person eventually loses its initial appeal to satisfy sexual gratification alone, so if the emotional relationship does not make someone enjoy the sexual relationship, then they will seek a new thrill with a new sexual partner. This does not protect a person’s emotional wellbeing and there’s also the risk of creating children without stability.
        • If a man and woman fornicate and both have an emotional attachment, they may as well be married. This will provide stability to any children possibly conceived.
        • Lev 19:29
        • this is why sex outside of marriage should not be normalised – only sex within marriage.
        • keeping your virginity is important to staying sexually pure – once the desire is awaken it is harder to stay abstinent. Which is why people who lose their virginity rarely limit the sexual activity to that one occurrence.
        • Allowing your children to marry young means they are less likely to fornicate – doesn’t negate the our job we have to prepare them for that responsibility.
        • “responsibility not a right”
    • Protects the ideal environment to raise children
      • Sex creates children
      • Eph 6:1-4 – importance of family
      • God is our father – marriage pictures Christ and the church – the church is part of begetting spiritual children and tasked with caring and feeding them whilst the Father is away.
      • Church relationships are likened to family.
  • Same-sex marriage adds to the weakening of this ideal
    • It normalises sexual activity outside of marriage – Do homosexuals really exist? Or have all homosexuals also experimented with heterosexual intercourse also – making them bisexual.
    • If monogamy amongst homosexuals were reality – the problem would be minimal. But is it reality? – according to scripture it isn’t.
    • If they are recognised as family – who’s to deny them the right to children?
    • If marriage is about adult relationships and not intrinsically linked to children – why only 2? Why be faithful? Why not experiment sexually?
    • If gender ideology isn’t a part is SSM why do they refer to themselves as LGBT?
    • Sexual purity within the bounds of marriage is so crucial to the moral success of a society that God put the highest deterrent on acts that threaten it – capital punishment
    • This is why in Lev 20 the sins of adultery, homosexuality and beastiality all have the death sentence applied to them
    • Fornication by unmarried couples can be remedied by marriage, which is why there are laws governing this sin, but not the death sentence.
  • Other possible legal consequences
    • Charities
    • Marriage Celebrants
    • Discrimination Act
    • Education
    • Religious institutions
    • Freedom of religion, speech, schools


Redefining marriage just takes our country one step further from where we should be. We have already devalued marriage by allowing no-fault divorce, legitimising fornicating relationships, allowing people to murder the fruit of their sexual activity with abortion, and now the redefining of marriage to include same-sex relationships. It’s not the first step in a downward spiral, it’s just another step in a multitude of steps that have been taken already.


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